Working It Out: Tips for Parenting a Struggling Teen

Working It Out: Tips for Parenting a Struggling Teen

A parenting handbook on how to handle and quell any situation with your child would be extremely helpful, but the truth is that every parent doesn’t know what to do at some point in their parenting career. If you have a struggling teen, you understand how hard it is to know what to say and what to do–there are many parents experiencing the same thing. You are not alone. Knowing a few tips for parenting a struggling teen could go a long way and make daily life just a smidge easier.

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Tips for dealing with a struggling teen

Keep an Open Mind and Listen. A struggling teen often feels as if their parents and other adults don’t understand or want to understand what they’re feeling or thinking. Put out an olive branch by letting them know you’re there if they need something or want to talk openly.

Then, when they do open up, don’t judge them or react negatively to what they say, because that can make your child shut you out again.

Keep Calm, Be Fair. It can be extremely frustrating when your child disobeys you for the zillionth time, but blowing up and yelling at them will often make things worse. Take a moment to think it through and come up with a fair consequence. Maybe even ask them what they think the consequence for their behavior should be; this includes your struggling teen in the process and will likely end up with your child understanding their punishment more fully.

Be the Role Model, but Understand What They’re Going Through. Yes, it’s important to keep up the appearance of being a strong, mature parent; but it’s also important to let your struggling teen know that you had challenges when you were their age, too. It shows them that all is not lost, their turmoil can be overcome, and they can get through their issues.

Notice Good Behavior. As the parent of a struggling teen, it can be easy to dwell on and see only the negative behaviors of your child because they’re more prevalent. Those need to be noticed, but so do the positive behaviors, even if they’re small. For example, your child came downstairs for dinner the first time you asked instead of the tenth, this is something you should notice and react to positively.

ViewPoint Center can help

If traditional therapy isn’t working for your struggling teen, it may be time to consider a more significant intervention. ViewPoint Center is a teen assessment center for young people ages 12-17. ViewPoint offers a comprehensive diagnostic assessment followed by treatment.

For more info about how ViewPoint Center can help your struggling teen, please call 801-825-5222 today!


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