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Porn Addictions In Teens And How To Help Them Overcome

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Porn Addictions In Teens And How To Help Them Overcome

Porn addictions in teenagers can be particularly insidious as they color the emerging world of adulthood with a shadow. This cloak of myths and outright falsehoods presents tremendous problems for teens who are already struggling with hormones, identity issues, and the prospect of becoming adults. Unfortunately, I was forced to deal with the problems as a father and step-father at the same time, but I was fortunate in that I could rely on ViewPoint Center resources, which included a residential treatment center for dealing with the problems of teenage porn addiction.

 

Porn Addiction Becomes Commonplace

I discovered that teenagers have routine access to some of the most disturbing porn I’ve ever come across. We parents are often woefully inadequate for the challenge of preventing internet access to digitally sophisticated kids who can run circles around our best efforts to implement parental controls.

 

Your kids know all the tricks, and the best parents can hope for is to slow their searches, limit their free time and maintain open communications so that kids will come to them for answers to their sexually related questions. There’s no practical way to eliminate porn completely from your kids’ lives. They can search at a friend’s house, erase their browsing history or search incognito so that their history isn’t tracked.

 

Establish Healthy Boundaries

I quickly learned that the best way to address the issue was with openness, transparency, and warnings of the very real dangers inherent in the simple act of “looking.” Most sexual problems and dysfunctions can trace their origins to misinformation gathered during adolescence, and getting addicted is extraordinarily easy in today’s sexually charged culture. Treatment for kids who already suffer from addiction can include outpatient therapy and wilderness therapy where they can experience rewarding outdoor activities without the constant worry of internet access.

 

Most addictions to pornography develop during the adolescent years, but people seldom seek treatment until much later in their lives. One of the strongest actions you can take against pornography addiction is having a frank discussion and explaining that porn isn’t real life. 

 

How to Approach Treatment for Your Teen’s Suspected Porn Addiction

It’s critical to separate normal curiosity about sex from the deeper problem of developing an addiction to porn. According to experts in porn addiction treatment, viewing pornography increases tolerance and inhibits self-control. Porn also stimulates the release of oxytocin, which is known as the “cuddle hormone.” The chemical helps couples become more firmly attached, but with pornography, that means becoming more attached to porn instead of a healthy relationship.

 

After viewing lots of porn, kids’ ideas about sex change. They may have considered normal sex to include kissing and holding hands, but their ideas expand to more graphic concepts. Most kids begin to view sex as violent and not overly concerned with consent.

 

If your kid becomes increasingly secretive around electronic gadgets or loses interest in schoolwork and extracurricular activities, porn addiction might be the cause.

 

Approaching Your Teen

Short of uncovering a cache of porn on your kid’s phone or computer, you have to introduce the conversation about sex and porn with your kid. Talking about sex makes most people uncomfortable, but this could be crucial to your child’s healthy development. About 79% of kids who want to stop watching porn admit that they have nobody with whom to discuss sex. [1] Start the conversation any way that you can.

 

Tips for Dealing with Porn Addiction

Maintaining open communication is the first step, and setting boundaries is equally important to demonstrate that you care about your children and won’t easily surrender to their porn-viewing habits. Tips for dealing with the addiction include:

 

Set Your Own Timetable for Your Kids’ Phone Ownership

    • You shouldn’t respond to peer pressure, so set your own timetable and conditions of phone ownership.

 

Use Parental Controls

    • Do enough research to be comfortable about placing limits on your kids’ use of electronics. Teenagers seldom understand the real-world risks of online flirting. Limit your kid’s access to porn, and warn them of the dangers of social media sharing.

 

Set Time Limits for Using Electronics

    • Make using electronics a privilege and not a guaranteed right. Set limits on the time they can use their devices, and you should restrict their use to public places where their browsing habits can be observed.

 

Keep Abreast of Technology Upgrades

    • Kids are endlessly inventive, and new technology often opens a window for secretive browsing. Your kids might be able to access porn from an unsuspected device, such as a gaming console.

 

Learn About Social Apps

    • Social media apps can often bypass what you want your kids should see at certain ages. That’s why it’s critical to learn about social, media apps that they might be using.

 

Set Bedtime Boundaries

    • Set hard deadlines for lights out and devices off. Keeping strong boundaries in place might just limit your kid’s access to pornography.

 

Seek Professional Help When Indicated

    • When your child becomes hopelessly addicted to his or her device, there’s a strong chance that it’s because of porn or unauthorized contact with strangers. When circumstances warrant it, you should seek professional help in the form of outpatient or residential treatment, wilderness therapy, or other therapeutic options.

 

ViewPoint Center Helps Teens and Their Parents Overcome Teen Issues

The ViewPoint Center offers a short-term residential treatment program that can save your kids from porn addiction or other common teenage problems. Temporarily living in a safe and open environment can help your kids turn their problems around and grow into stable adults. The short-stay can result in a better long-term diagnosis of any problems, and kids enjoy the environment of the center, which is located in beautiful Salt Lake City, Utah.